{"id":450,"date":"2024-10-23T21:24:16","date_gmt":"2024-10-23T21:24:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.successjourney.biz\/?p=450"},"modified":"2025-03-06T19:13:48","modified_gmt":"2025-03-06T19:13:48","slug":"seeking-management-approval-a-toxic-trait","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.successjourney.biz\/es\/2024\/10\/23\/seeking-management-approval-a-toxic-trait\/","title":{"rendered":"Seeking Management Approval: A Toxic Trait"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"has-text-dark-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-dbd4cba3d81a324df54b8b0e716a21c4\">My favorite musical of all time is \u201cChicago\u201d. Mainly because I love jazz, but also because there\u2019s<br>one scene where its main character, Roxie Hart, explains why people seek fame. Something along<br>the lines of \u201c\u2026And we love each other.&nbsp;And that&#8217;s because none of us got enough love in our<br>childhood.&nbsp;And that&#8217;s showbiz\u2026&nbsp;kid\u201d. Those lyrics have always stayed with me because that\u2019s<br>usually how people in the art industry talk about themselves. Looks like the inspiration behind<br>creativity often comes from a place of insecurity, and the need for external validation. It certainly<br>rings a bell to me, and even though I only play music as a hobby, I can totally relate to the feeling<br>of always pushing the extra mile to get some sort of blessing from my boss, whoever they were at<br>the time. Let\u2019s face it: we are all more interested in how other people see us than we care to admit.<br>Stay with me and read till the end, and maybe we can come up with a few simple steps to avoid<br>focusing so much on management approval.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-rank-math-toc-block\" id=\"rank-math-toc\"><h2>Table of Contents<\/h2><nav><ul><li><a href=\"#teachers-pet\">Teacher\u2019s pet<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#from-top-to-bottom\">From Top to Bottom<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#why-me\">Why Me?<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#rewards\">Rewards<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-medium-font-size\" id=\"teachers-pet\">Teacher\u2019s pet<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-dark-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-361d6c9726a49a7bea2908bf8dd97182\">I remember back in school there was a double standard on this. If the teachers liked you, you had<br>an easier academic life, but the constant bullying and negative comments from the rest of the class<br>was not really worth it. Somehow growing up, most people continue to go after their leader\u2019s<br>compliments and -with time- work ethics tend to get blurred because of that. Betraying your<br>coworkers\u2019 trust is in no way the right path to get ahead or grow professionally.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-medium-font-size\" id=\"from-top-to-bottom\">From Top to Bottom<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-dark-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-ae4911cf40353b942495782e93f63dd2\">Most companies talk about positive culture, family environment, and things of the sort. If that is true<br>and you get to be in that atmosphere, you have won the lottery. But if it isn\u2019t, it won&#8217;t be long until<br>your supervisor treats you amazing on Monday and tells you how well you are doing, etc. to &#8211; by<br>Friday &#8211; is pretty mean to you and lets you know how much of a disappointment you are to them<br>and to the team. I\u2019ve had calls in which I was praised for my accomplishments to then be told I was<br>\u201cfull of BS\u201d. And this happened in two separate calls, within the same month by the exact same<br>person. Why? I think this leader got their head full of lies by someone who should have been my<br>mentor but was so scared I was going to do better than them at my role than did the unthinkable to<br>see me fail. So don\u2019t cling to praises and compliments. They usually don\u2019t last long in the corporate<br>world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-medium-font-size\" id=\"why-me\">Why Me?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-dark-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-68b0f95ec8835dc2dabe958dc4f3bdb6\">And why NOT you? If you are doing a good job, and you are putting a real effort to learn and excel<br>at your tasks, the real reward is within you. Yes: we need the money, we love to feel proud, we like<br>to be needed. It\u2019s true. But all of that is right in your mirror. We shouldn&#8217;t be looking for this<br>constant external validation. Who is better than you to tell you how you should think of yourself?<br>Self esteem is something most of us work on throughout our entire lives. We seek counselling,<br>coaching, therapy, whatever works best for each of us. But in the end, there\u2019s a gut feeling that<br>should be your green light. \u201cThis is it. This is my impact. This is what I want to leave behind\u201d. If you<br>already found it, go for it. If not, keep searching. It\u2019s somewhere inside of you!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading has-medium-font-size\" id=\"rewards\">Rewards<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-dark-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-6c3f1efca241c8f766edf434fd3e7dba\">It might sound a bit too comforting, but if you can balance your expectations and live in the<br>moment, instead of projecting your happiness for when you get that promotion, or that raise, or that<br>relocation, etc. everyday little successes will make your life much better, day by day. Those small<br>rewards of finishing a tough task you didn&#8217;t understand at first, or that chat you had with a team<br>member who thanked you for your support on that client\u2019s call, or even hitting that sales goal that<br>bumps your commissions up for the month are a lot better and last a lot longer that your boss<br>saying \u201cgreat job\u201d after missing your family dinner because you had a deadline they should have<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-dark-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-3e21a87f11beefe7684bec11d13365b6\">been working on instead of you. So next time you evaluate your performance at work, make sure<br>you consider what you think first. You and your loved ones. Not your supervisor\u2019s opinion alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-dark-color has-text-color has-link-color wp-elements-30c68d039ee70270b67de87ca1be1cf7\">For more best practices ideas, click <a href=\"https:\/\/blog.successjourney.biz\/es\/best-practices\/\" data-type=\"link\" data-id=\"https:\/\/blog.successjourney.biz\/best-practices\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><mark style=\"background-color:rgba(0, 0, 0, 0)\" class=\"has-inline-color has-text-hover-3-color\">here<\/mark><\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>My favorite musical of all time is \u201cChicago\u201d. 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